After doing the interview with Thorny yesterday, I started thinking about how gender is portrayed in fashion and film. They, of course, are a few steps ahead of the rest of us. They set the tone and eventually, we follow.
But not all the time. Often, the general public resists embracing certain trends, especially when it comes to gender. They want their women to look female and their men to look male. Oddballs like me need not apply.
You’ve seen The Crying Game and Stargate, right? Jaye Davidson played Dil in the former and Ra in the latter, and his androgynous look worked well in both. I think he’s beautiful.That was many years ago, and Jaye quit Hollywood (surprisingly smart of him, if you ask me) and went to Paris, where I’m sure he had many adventures. Today, his hair his in a faux mohawk, and he looks completely different. I admit to being curious about the lives he tried on while living in the City of Light.
Male or female? Sometimes, it’s not easy to tell unless you look closely, and even then you might not be sure. And here are a few more pics I found. Isn’t it time we got away from assigning gender roles to people based on what they look like? Why is it only Hollywood, artists, and fashion magazines that get to play with gender? Why can’t we do it too, based on how we feel that day or week or month or lifetime? Being born in one body should not sentence us to always and forever exhibiting the traits assigned to it. And if someone feels strongly they want a different body in order to feel more fully and completely who they are, who are we to deny that?
What about men wearing what some might call dresses or skirts? What’s wrong with that? Women wear pants all the time and no one says a word. (If they’re smart, they’ll browse the boys’ or mens’ departments for a better price on their jeans and shorts.)
Why is anyone who does not fit preconceived notions threatening to the majority comfortable in their skins? Does it go back to our need to slap a label on everything and call it done?
I don’t know, and I don’t care, but denying someone their rights because they don’t fit into some arbitrary role has to stop. Beating up or killing those who are different must cease.
It’s time for humanity to take another step forward on our journey to transcendence.