Living alone has all kinds of benefits: You can eat dinner twice in one night or not at all. The volume for movies and music is always exactly right for your listening pleasure. You never have to adjust the driver’s seat in the car because you’re the only one touching the settings. You can talk to yourself at the computer and no one looks at you like you’re crazy. You never have to consult with anyone about whether or not to go somewhere, when to leave, or what route to take; you just do it. You can wear the same pair of jeans three days in a row and no one knows.
I could go on and on, but I won’t. If you’ve lived alone for any length of time, you know all the cool things only single people enjoy.
But it’s not always a pleasure being by yourself. There’s no one to cuddle with. No one to discuss things with. Whether you’re sad or angry or jumping out of your skin with happiness, you end up sharing it with the dog, who tilts her head and stares and wonders what the hell you’re talking about because you haven’t said the word ‘food’ and that’s the only thing she recognizes other than ‘ride’ and ‘out’. Unless you have friends at your beck and call, you go a lot of places by yourself and while eating out is still nice because getting waited is usually at the top of everyone’s list of favorite things, it’s not nearly as much fun if you’re the only one at the table.
I’ve lately been giving the state of being single some thought and sometimes found it lacking. Maybe it’s time for a change.
Suki and I were walking around a local lake the other day. On that day, the sun was warm and dragonflies were still flying. Suki was off-leash because it was early afternoon and the kids were still in school; I didn’t see anyone else. I like the light in this picture of the shoreline, taken from a dock. It looks as though the grass is glowing from within.
Once the tar path reached its end point, we struck off into the woods on a trail made by everyone who had explored before us. This was my favorite part of the walk. The canopy of trees closed in overhead but I could still see the water on my right. Suki never stopped smiling.
I left the shot uncropped because I like seeing how large the woods are and how small Suki is in comparison. I made the usual adjustments and ran it through Topaz Adjust. Click on the photos to see original size.
Notice the drift of leaves across the trail. Fall came early this year, I’m told. At this rate, the leaves will be gone in just a few weeks. That makes me sad.
This year, like every year, I hope to get out during winter and take some photos. Maybe if I’m living with someone, it will happen. Sometimes I need a push.